Anonymous: oooo, you're in seattle :P are you taken? I'm in Portland, OR :P
I’m taken with this wonderful city, yes! But I’ll occasionally cheat on Seattle with Portland. I like that place, despite the homelessness per capita of what seems like approximately 25%. Which, as awful as it is, adds to the character of Portland.
All the more reason to implement more socialistic reforms… <_< And no, I’m not anti-capitalistic. I’m just pro-socialism.
Can you please give me an example of how pro-socialist economies work to better serve mankind? Im not asking for theories, I’m asking for an actual working example.
Anonymous: Im really horny but my girl is fast asleep next to me. And she is completely naked. Would it be wrong if I touched myself while I touched her?
If. You. Do. Not. Get. Consent. It. Is. Rape.
You are literally saying that someone can rape you once, and if you don’t like it, it’s not rape. That is called being a rape apologist.
Dating someone does not give you universal consent, consent CANNOT be implied. It must be given each time while the person is SOBER AND AWAKE.
What Is Date Rape?
When people think of rape, they might think of a stranger jumping out of a shadowy place and sexually attacking someone. But it’s not only strangers who rape. In fact, about half of all people who are raped know the person who attacked them. Girls and women are most often raped, but guys also can be raped.
Most friendships, acquaintances, and dates never lead to violence, of course. But, sadly, sometimes it happens. When forced sex occurs between two people who already know each other, it is known as date rape or acquaintance rape.
Even if the two people know each other well, and even if they were intimate or had sex before, no one has the right to force a sexual act on another person against his or her will.
Being in a relationship with someone does not give you the right to touch them without their consent.
That is the definition of rape and sexual assault. Doing it WITHOUT CONSENT.
Please fix your ignorance before you hurt someone.
Ok. Check. I am not a rapist. I am not a rape apologist.
There is no ignorance here. I’m just observing the situation and action and you are observing the only the action.
I just think that if you’re dating someone, and they’re sleeping in your bed already, and y’all are already sexual with each other, that its ok to wake them up with a surprise blow job/cunilingus. That they might *gasp* even maybe like it.
You just think that if said person hasn’t told you explicitly before they went to sleep that it would be ok to wake them up in such a manner, then you best not wake them up in such a manner because they haven’t given consent and that is rape.
I see that our differences lie at what the definition of rape is combined with the fact that you don’t seem to give as much importance, if any, to the context and situation in which said sex act is occurring.
If you go strictly by the definition of the word, the act would constitute a rape because the significant other is asleep aka unconscious.
I think, common sense wise, rape is a violent or coercive sexual act against someone who has not or is not able or has been manipulated into giving consent.
So, if this girl/guy is someone you’re dating, I think its not too audacious to say that there is a level of trust already there. Especially if y’all have been intimate before.
That level of trust I’d say gives you a certain good credit with said partner, that if they woke up to you between their legs , they’d be decidedly less alarmed and maybe happy that you were there, as opposed to seeing the person they saw on the subway the night before in between their legs.
And if they are not happy, then you can explain, “oh I thought I’d wake you up with some oral sex, but if it’s not something you’re down with then I won’t do it again.” Are not relationships about growing and learning with your partner? I don’t see how that specific action is violent or coercive to the person on the receiving end of the act, or how the act is, in and of itself, violent or coercive.
I am very sure no one would call that a rape. And if they did and decided to pursue all legal remedies available to them, I am more sure that, in the court of law, after all things were taken into consideration, a jury wouldn’t find that to be rape.
Really it comes down to the fact that you’re looking at this singular situation through a black and white lens. I am looking at it through a contextual lens.
Because at the end of the day, who doesn’t enjoy oral sex?
(That is a rhetorical question. This being Tumblr, I’m sure there’s someone out there who’s completely turned off by even the idea of oral sex.)
P.S. I will not unfollow your blog. Its a nice blog and I like it. :)
You don’t get to change the definition of rape just because it makes you uncomfortable to be called a rapist. Because you just admit that you are a rapist and a rape apologist.
You are the definition of a date rapist/acquaintance rapist.
Go read a study on rapists, most literally think like you. You should get professional help.
Stop trying to make rape seem like there are some kind of layers of what is rape and what is ‘sorta rape’. Rape is rape. IF YOU DO NOT GET CONSENT YOU ARE RAPING THEM. Get that through your fucking head.
I can like sex with someone, like receiving oral from someone and enjoy it, but IF THEY DO NOT GET MY CONSENT TO WAKE ME WITH ORAL THEY HAVE JUST ASSAULTED ME and they can (and would be) persecuted in a court of law for raping/assaulting me. Juries find entitled sick people like you guilty of date rape every day.
You do not get to touch my body simply because we have had sex before. CONSENT IS NEVER IMPLIED.
And rape isn’t always violent. You are so ignorant it’s unreal. Continue to contact me and I will be reporting you. I can’t even finish this post because I am so triggered. I am shaking, and on the verge of crying.
Well damn. I never said that rape is always violent. If you read what I had wrote you would know that. I just said that if your gf or bf is laying in bed next to you and you’re feeling particularly frisky it might not be a bad idea to wake them up by eating them out or giving them a blowjob.
I agree that rape is rape.
I just don’t agree that surprise, wake up, oral sex from someone you had sex with the night before and that you let sleep over in your bed, is rape. I think its a gift. That admittedly you wouldn’t like to be on the receiving end of. But that, also, many people, including myself, have no problem with.
The world is not black and white. Everything is situational. You might come by the same conclusions each time but every situation should be judged on its own.
Btw, what exactly are you going to report me for? Talking about ideas on the internet? Cuz I’m not out here stalking or harassing you. This is an exchange of ideas. A conversation.
“I think, common sense wise, rape is a violent or coercive sexual act against someone who has not or is not able or has been manipulated into giving consent.”
Direct quote from you, which I misread at first, but now just proves you to be contradicting yourself as you are NOT ABLE to give consent while unconscious.
I rest my case.
Wtf lol…poor bastard just asked a question.
"all women belong in the kitchen," the self-centered asshole says
the ground moves and the walls shake as all women around the world barricade themselves inside of their kitchens. they cook and eat and drink while the men outside of the barricades suffer from hunger and insanity. the males perish from famine and the women emerge united, choosing beyoncé as their supreme and unquestioned leader
Lulz…you keep right on, with that retardedness…